I had recently done a chat room (for free, I might add) for a magazine I’ve written for over the past 12 years. I’ve done chat rooms before on my site but you get an influx of people who don’t know why they are there, what questions to ask or even how to formulate a question that makes sense! Through all this, the host is supposed to be a Goddess and know what the people mean. Organize your questions, people. Have a full thought and then convey it properly.
People asked me questions like, “How do I get rid of fears and doubts?” I told him to go to a therapist! How can a yes/no spread for tarot answer that question? If he had a year ahead reading (I was doing a minute or two each), then we could deal with his issues through tarot, but if you can’t organize a full thought or an intelligent question, why are you in the chat room?
The best one was, “What can tarot do for me?” So I went on to talk about how it gives one options and choices for the future. It helps you see where you are procrastinating or perhaps where you are being a “sucker” (too giving, caring, loving, kind, generous and honest, etc.) and if you change the pattern, your life will be more positive. So he asked again, “So how can it help me?” Simply, I guess, I don’t know. You are not my client and I have never done a reading for you, so I thought I answered as best that I could. Was he not listening?
Chat rooms are a service for those who truly need some advice or guidance. Even though my editor told me that there are no ridiculous questions, I beg to differ. There are. I’ve been teaching metaphysics and parapsychology for over 38 years around the world and on cruises and I know a ridiculous question when I hear one. For example: One man asked if he were going to get a job within the next six months? Sounds like a well organized question, doesn’t it? I inquired if he were sending out resumes, networking and asking friends for leads about a job while I was shuffling the cards for his answer. He said, “No, I’m just waiting for a job to come to me.” Surprise, surprise, the cards said, “No, he would not get a job within the next six months.” He said, “I didn’t think so.” Duh! Get off your butt and do something positive towards acquiring a job – nothing comes to us for free or without effort. I think we all know that.
At the beginning of the chat room, I tried to explain what we would do in the chat as well as give a few minutes of background. However, people just jumped right in with their questions and I asked if they could wait about 20 minutes so they can understand what I was going to do — but being a rude group who totally ignored my request — they just typed over me and over each other with their personal questions. I gave up and answered their questions. Then, what happened? As people came into the room, they each asked if I could give some background on tarot! Are you kidding me? No one wanted to listen to it the first time and then they wanted it repeated three or more times.
Feedback on the magazine site about me said I was negative. Negative? I think the whole room was negative because no one knew what they were talking about. Going to a therapist is not a negative response. I tell some of my clients who need more than a tarot reading to straighten out their lives to go to a counselor or therapist and no one has ever objected to that advice and always said they were thinking of it anyway and was glad for the confirmation. I guess I could have said, “Talk to friends and family and if that doesn’t work, perhaps you should see a therapist,” but you know what, I am very straight forward and give the advice they need at the moment and that boy/man needed therapy!
Everyone was interested in the most bizarre things including the “When will I get rich?” question. I thought we all out grew that pattern long ago, although I know who asked me and I think she was goofing so the mood could lighten up. I even told my fiance some of the questions that were being asked in the room; he is a very intelligent college educated man and he asked, “What are they talking about? It doesn’t make sense.” I know. I know, but I wanted to just make sure it wasn’t me.
I now remember why I don’t do chat rooms any more. They NEVER bring in new business – these people are just looking for FREEBIES and want you to give them the answers that they want to hear. They want you to make choices for them and decide their futures and I won’t do that. God gave us free will, so I give options for your future and fortunately or unfortunately you have to decide your own path in this life. Then the same woman even said in a feedback note to the magazine that I said they weren’t smart enough or she asked if I weren’t smart enough – gee, I wonder which one it is?
The editor is trying to be fair and look at both sides, but you know, she wasn’t there and didn’t see what an unruly group of crazies that were in the room. However, it did spur me into doing teleconference calls again starting in January on Feng Shui and maybe other topics. At least I can tell them to formulate questions before they ask them. Besides, most people can’t type 110 wpm like I can, so some were asking questions while I was answering another question. Very confusing format and very confusing evening. One that I hope will never be repeated.
Moral is never to do a free chat room on a day with the moon in Scorpio when your Ascendant and Pluto are in Leo!
I am now finished with this ridiculous waste of time in writing about chat rooms, but had to get this feeling of frustration out of me or I would not be able to sleep tonight and I must get up very early tomorrow.
Anyway, if you go into a chat room, here are some rules:
Find out what the chat room is about. If you don’t know, wait around until you see what it is about and then ask questions at the appropriate time.
Find out when you are allowed to ask personal questions and wait for the host to call upon you.
Ask a question that makes sense. Don’t give half thoughts or assume the host knows what you are talking about if you are typing in a cryptic secret code.
Be courteous. The person doing the chat room is doing this on his/her own time for free and as a service FOR YOU so respect that.
Stop complaining about whether or not you liked the chat room. If you got anything out of it FOR FREE, you are ahead of the game.
If you don’t like the chat room, just leave. I’m sure you can find another chat room which can interest you.
Other than that, I think I am done ranting and raving about chat rooms – so remember my teleconferencing calls starting in January. They will be easier and more fun, I promise.
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